Did you grizzle on social media about your bad luck: maybe blame your boss, your parents, the government,your friends? Did you waste time complaining about other countries' governments, your ex who cheated on you, your neighbours, people who don't share your opinion about - well anything really..etc etc?
If you did, then it's time to turn the page and begin your next chapter with a more positive way of thinking. You can't give your future your full attention if all your focus is on the past so draw a line under it and move on. Make your story take a different path, you write your own book of life and make your own luck, be it good or bad: the choice is yours.
Have fun with a vision board.
Here's something I've been doing for a few years now with a fair bit of success. My daughters do it with amazing success and now we are teaching my grandchildren to have fun with creating a vision board, too. You can start this anytime you like, it doesn't have to be on January 1st but now seems as good a time as any, so let's do it!
Get yourself a large piece of card or a cork pin- board. Cut out pictures as representations of all the things you wish to achieve or own in the future and attach the pictures to your board or poster. You can choose anything: : a university degree, a job doing something you love, a car, learning to play a musical intrument, a loving relationship, the holiday of a lifetime.... You get the idea, I'm sure. It's your future and your vision board.
Put your vision board somewhere where you will see it at various times of the day and take a good look at it regularly.You could make your vision board electronically and have it as a screensaver. It doesn't matter as long as you can see it everyday.
Now, imagine you already have all the things on the board. Close your eyes and feel how it would be to have all those things: to live the life you crave. Whenever you start to have doubts, force yourself to get back in the zone.
Don't make your goals too easy, mind! Think and dream BIG. Go for what you really want. If you aim too low, you'll be cheating yourself.
If you read my blogs regularly you'll know I believe that what we think about, comes about.
So push all those negative thoughts aside and focus on what you really, really want. Each time you attain a goal, set a new one. By the way, it's ok to change your mind about what you want from time to time. As we go through life, we often find that different things become important to us.
Remember the good things.
It's funny how we sometimes overlook the good things in our lives: Those simple things that bring us real joy. Someone had the brilliant idea of using post-it notes to jot down all the things that made you smile, laugh or feel good in some way. At the end of each day, fold the post-it notes and pop them into a jar. Then, when you arrive at the end of the year, or even on a horrible day when you feel that nothing is going right for you - open the jar and remind yourself of all the small things that made you smile. It's a simple way of reminding yourself that you have a lot to be grateful for. And speaking of gratitude:
Everyday, tell yourself that you have lots to be grateful for.
Each morning, when you awake and before you climb out of bed, think about three or four things that are good about your life. Those things could be as simple as the people who love you, the fact that you had somewhere warm and dry to sleep last night, enough money in your pocket to buy food for the day or the opportunity for an education. (Remember, there are millions of people in the world who do not have those things.)
Then, before you go to sleep, remind yourself of something good that happened during the day: something that made you feel accomplished or proud or made you laugh. Maybe someone paid you a compliment or perhaps you felt good about helping someone else. Re-live that feeling and if your day was so awful that you can't feel good about it, use your imagination to re-live the day as you would like it to have been. In other words, go to sleep with an image that satisfies or excites you. That good feeling will grow and mature overnight and set you up for a great start to the next day!
Make this a daily ritual - it works, I promise!